In the beginning

On Monday 6th December my husband of over 28 years declared that he is leaving me for another woman. Apparently I have done nothing wrong and he still loves me but is not 'in love' with me.

His affair started around 18 months ago by 'the other woman' contacting and propositioning him on facebook. Now he is no angel as he should have said no - but why would a woman deliberately set out to break up a marriage that was not in trouble just because hers was on the rocks ? To be fair to my husband he told me after I noted that he seemed to be distant - at least I didn't find out via some other route !

We tried twice to make a go of it but both times she managed to come back into his life again opening up wounds and making him think again of her never really giving us a chance. She claims she is 'thick' but I think she targeted him as she could see what a wonderful man is he and wanted him to replace her broken marriage (by her I hasten to add). I also think she is a manipulating *****.

I still love my husband as he is my soulmate and always has been and also was my best friend. So not only has she stolen my husband, she has stolen my soulmate and my best friend.

This blog will hopefully be therapeutic for me and maybe help others who find themselves in a similar situation xx





Saturday, 15 January 2011

Good hair day !

Well I had a little lie in this morning which was nice. I woke up and could have sworn I head someone in the house hiccoughing and thought maybe my daughter had slipped in early - but she wasn't there - so I think it must have been one of the cats.

I had my hair done today and had so many complimentary comments from folks down at the theatre - that was really nice and made me feel good for the first time in a while.

I'm shattered after having been on my feet doing bar, clearing and washing up fro two shows - I'm going to try and have a long lie in tomorrow.

And its nice because my daughter is home tonight :-)

I've had a chat tonight with others who have been in break ups with partners. Its amazing how you don't know these things till you chat to folks. They all say that I will get over it in time and that I am a strong woman. The other think I have noticed is that the women seem to be in one of two camps

1. those who seem to need/want/end up with a man in their life again and
2. those who think men are not worth it and don't want another man

I'm definitely in camp 2 at the moment. If my husband doesn't want to come back then that's it ! We had a short chat today about that money issue and he still seems supportive and wants to ensure that I am ok and do not have any problems. I had said to him that we had nothing to talk about at the moment but he said that because our daughters are not talking to him, he wants to talk to me to find out what they are doing etc. He said he didn't know that one had gone to Cardiff with her boyfriend - he only found out via facebook.

He is still a nice man - he is not evil or a liar so I'm sure that the things that she replied to me in her message back is not right. Either she is in cloud cookoo land or she is lying.

I still can't give myself permission to be happy - it doesn't feel right........ when will I feel like I need to say sod it why should I suffer because of her and he has made his decision so he can stuff it ? Mentally/logically  I know I should do that but I can't - why ??
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