In the beginning

On Monday 6th December my husband of over 28 years declared that he is leaving me for another woman. Apparently I have done nothing wrong and he still loves me but is not 'in love' with me.

His affair started around 18 months ago by 'the other woman' contacting and propositioning him on facebook. Now he is no angel as he should have said no - but why would a woman deliberately set out to break up a marriage that was not in trouble just because hers was on the rocks ? To be fair to my husband he told me after I noted that he seemed to be distant - at least I didn't find out via some other route !

We tried twice to make a go of it but both times she managed to come back into his life again opening up wounds and making him think again of her never really giving us a chance. She claims she is 'thick' but I think she targeted him as she could see what a wonderful man is he and wanted him to replace her broken marriage (by her I hasten to add). I also think she is a manipulating *****.

I still love my husband as he is my soulmate and always has been and also was my best friend. So not only has she stolen my husband, she has stolen my soulmate and my best friend.

This blog will hopefully be therapeutic for me and maybe help others who find themselves in a similar situation xx





Tuesday, 21 December 2010

Just another day

Another up and down day. We went today to get my car serviced and MOT, so ended up in Letchworth for a couple of hours. We went and had a drink at Costa and everytime we stop to talk it ends in tears.

We were supposed to be travelling to Birmingham this afternoon to go to the German Market and watch the Bootleg Beatles. However the weather reports were so unsure that my husband decided not to risk it. It seem like the snow hasn't come yet so we would have been OK - such a shame :-(

So tonight I've had time to reflect on what I will miss when he leaves. I will so miss having someone here to hug when I get home from work. I will miss the companionship, someone to share my good times and bad times with, the someone I trust fully to tell my inner most secrets and thoughts to without the risk of them being passed around (I've had too many instances of this in my life from so called 'friends'). I'm not sure I now have anyone that I can trust in that way anymore or ever will . I know I can't talk to my husband in that way anymore as he will likely tell 'her'.

More people have found out today and been in touch - lots of supportive words again. I was sad to find out a friend was also going through a splitting up with their partner - it so sucks ..........

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