In the beginning

On Monday 6th December my husband of over 28 years declared that he is leaving me for another woman. Apparently I have done nothing wrong and he still loves me but is not 'in love' with me.

His affair started around 18 months ago by 'the other woman' contacting and propositioning him on facebook. Now he is no angel as he should have said no - but why would a woman deliberately set out to break up a marriage that was not in trouble just because hers was on the rocks ? To be fair to my husband he told me after I noted that he seemed to be distant - at least I didn't find out via some other route !

We tried twice to make a go of it but both times she managed to come back into his life again opening up wounds and making him think again of her never really giving us a chance. She claims she is 'thick' but I think she targeted him as she could see what a wonderful man is he and wanted him to replace her broken marriage (by her I hasten to add). I also think she is a manipulating *****.

I still love my husband as he is my soulmate and always has been and also was my best friend. So not only has she stolen my husband, she has stolen my soulmate and my best friend.

This blog will hopefully be therapeutic for me and maybe help others who find themselves in a similar situation xx





Saturday, 25 December 2010

Christmas Day

I was really expecting today to be very difficult, but once again it felt 'normal' (ish). As long as I tried not to think of the situation, I was able to enjoy the day.

First thing in the morning my husband tried to be 'super' happy which didn't feel genuine and was over the top. One of my daughters asked why he was acting weird. When we told him, he cried as he said he wanted to make it a happy day.

We spent the day at my in laws and it was lovely. I recieved lots of lovely presents and ate more than I have for the last few weeks. It made it all the more difficult not to think I had been in a bad dream that I had just woken up from. I am so glad I went and very grateful to them for making it a happy day. I have grown up with this family and so as I have no other blood family left in the UK, being an only child, they are my family.
I'm not sure how my husband felt about the day - he seemed to sit apart a lot of the time and look miserable.

One of my daughters insisted we had some photos together and made me a 'happy' CD to play in the car. My husband walked to the family so that our dog could have a long walk and we drove with the presents, playing the CD. On the way back the CD came on and I my husband commented on it being a CD to forget him..... hmmmm

I had some lovely texts from friends - thank you all for caring :-)

So now the festivities are over its the downhill slope till he leaves. I'm so not looking forward to January :-(
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