In the beginning

On Monday 6th December my husband of over 28 years declared that he is leaving me for another woman. Apparently I have done nothing wrong and he still loves me but is not 'in love' with me.

His affair started around 18 months ago by 'the other woman' contacting and propositioning him on facebook. Now he is no angel as he should have said no - but why would a woman deliberately set out to break up a marriage that was not in trouble just because hers was on the rocks ? To be fair to my husband he told me after I noted that he seemed to be distant - at least I didn't find out via some other route !

We tried twice to make a go of it but both times she managed to come back into his life again opening up wounds and making him think again of her never really giving us a chance. She claims she is 'thick' but I think she targeted him as she could see what a wonderful man is he and wanted him to replace her broken marriage (by her I hasten to add). I also think she is a manipulating *****.

I still love my husband as he is my soulmate and always has been and also was my best friend. So not only has she stolen my husband, she has stolen my soulmate and my best friend.

This blog will hopefully be therapeutic for me and maybe help others who find themselves in a similar situation xx





Sunday, 6 March 2011

Catching up .......

I thought I would catch up on my blog this morning as I haven't written for two evenings. I am really struggling to do my first assignment for my course which has to be in by Tuesday. So I need to finish it today as I have no time afterwards to work on it. Usually I send my assignments in a week in advance so I reflected on why I am so late. I think it is two things - I'm finding it hard to concentrate and my daughters need lots of my time at the moment on top of all the other things I am trying to do.

Whilst it is nice having the freedom of being 'single' again I do miss the companionship and having someone else to talk to in the moment about what is going on in my mind and how I am feeling.

I had a lovely day on Friday as I went to my friends son's army passing out parade (men in uniform!). It was lovely to see him parading and I felt very very privileged to be able to be there. It was a very special moment in his life and for his family. I know they are proud of him and so was I :-) His sergeant was rather nice looking too - lol. I did miss my husband being there with me. And then in the evening I joined other friends for karaoke. Whilst I didn't sing I did discover that wine does make me drunk regardless of whether I have eaten or not........ We had a great time especially as they kept the pub open for an extra hour because three of the guys with us sang Nessem Dorma (on my suggestion). I used to not like this particular pub and kept well away from it, but the landlady is trying to make improvements and has got rid of the less savoury characters. Her problem now is changing its bad reputation.

Yesterday was spent trying to get the assignment done - got half way, looking for a car for my daughter and going to a friends eccentric and quaint Mad Hatters 30th birthday party. My daughter is desperate to lose weight and it is making her depressed. Whilst at one of the car traders some silly boys with a hose splashed in our direction and it got her. She burst into tears and was convinced it was deliberate and that everyone thinks she is fat and ugly. So we went straight home. She has found one of those diets that posts all your food to you at home and you just eat the meals they provide plus extra fruit and veg. We've researched it on the Internet and it gets good reviews, so she is going to give it a try. It'll be worth it if it helps get her out of this depression.

Its good to have some male friends who know about cars as my daughter saw one she liked. It was from a private buyer. Anyhow I was really nervous about this so asked for some advice. Turns out it was a write off in Sept 2010 and would be impossible to insure. So we will likely buy from trade rather than private - so we are still looking.

Anyhow gotta go and finish this assignment - bye for now.

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