In the beginning

On Monday 6th December my husband of over 28 years declared that he is leaving me for another woman. Apparently I have done nothing wrong and he still loves me but is not 'in love' with me.

His affair started around 18 months ago by 'the other woman' contacting and propositioning him on facebook. Now he is no angel as he should have said no - but why would a woman deliberately set out to break up a marriage that was not in trouble just because hers was on the rocks ? To be fair to my husband he told me after I noted that he seemed to be distant - at least I didn't find out via some other route !

We tried twice to make a go of it but both times she managed to come back into his life again opening up wounds and making him think again of her never really giving us a chance. She claims she is 'thick' but I think she targeted him as she could see what a wonderful man is he and wanted him to replace her broken marriage (by her I hasten to add). I also think she is a manipulating *****.

I still love my husband as he is my soulmate and always has been and also was my best friend. So not only has she stolen my husband, she has stolen my soulmate and my best friend.

This blog will hopefully be therapeutic for me and maybe help others who find themselves in a similar situation xx





Wednesday, 23 February 2011

R.I.P Whitney x

I started today by being woken up by a howl. Getting up I discovered our sick cat collapsed on the stairs. I picked her up, she was looking at me as she gasped for breath and then died in my arms :-( I then spend the next hour and a half crying whilst I got ready for work, phoned the vet, took her to the vet and drove to work. It is so dreadful finding yourself in that situation when all alone ...........

I tried phoning my husband who said he wanted to be there for me and the girls should we need help. All I got was his voice mail so I left a distressed message. I also texted both the girls to call me. My husband had his phone off so he didn't pick up the message till three hours later. I was fuming - what if it had been a major emergency ? Anyhow we've had a day of messages going back and forward. Being at work I couldn't respond or call. When I got home he called and I got very upset on the phone - he couldn't seem to understand what I was trying to say at first. He did apologise but as I had a rehearsal and was getting upset I said I needed to go and hung up. Anyhow he didn't like that so he called back. My daughter picked up and said I had gone (I was on my way out) and hung up. Well following that he then rang both the house phones consistently one after the other. We had 14 missed calls on one of them. Then he tried 4 times on my mobile. So then I got a text saying he was too upset to come down to the theatre to pick some paperwork up and could I pick it up! Is this the way someone who loves you behaves ??

Anyhow I am emotionally drained again and feel like I have taken a number of huge steps back again. My hate for her has again surfaced with a vengeance.

I had planned to go to the cinema with a friend tomorrow, which I had mentioned to him when at the vets on Monday. Suddenly he is going to the cinema tomorrow with the manipulating *****.

I called the doctors today to get my test results back. The good news is that the blood results are ok. The urine ones were not back so I have to call again tomorrow.

Dear God - no sign yet - just more pain and sadness. When will this let up ? 2011 has got to be one of the worst ones in my life so far - what have I done to deserve this ?

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