In the beginning

On Monday 6th December my husband of over 28 years declared that he is leaving me for another woman. Apparently I have done nothing wrong and he still loves me but is not 'in love' with me.

His affair started around 18 months ago by 'the other woman' contacting and propositioning him on facebook. Now he is no angel as he should have said no - but why would a woman deliberately set out to break up a marriage that was not in trouble just because hers was on the rocks ? To be fair to my husband he told me after I noted that he seemed to be distant - at least I didn't find out via some other route !

We tried twice to make a go of it but both times she managed to come back into his life again opening up wounds and making him think again of her never really giving us a chance. She claims she is 'thick' but I think she targeted him as she could see what a wonderful man is he and wanted him to replace her broken marriage (by her I hasten to add). I also think she is a manipulating *****.

I still love my husband as he is my soulmate and always has been and also was my best friend. So not only has she stolen my husband, she has stolen my soulmate and my best friend.

This blog will hopefully be therapeutic for me and maybe help others who find themselves in a similar situation xx





Thursday, 3 February 2011

More Scary

Well - that gentleman I mentioned is still writing.... he has now given me his phone number should I want to call him. I have politely told him that I am not ready to do anything except chat via messages.

My husband texted me to let me know he went for a job interview today and will find out next week if he is successful. It hurts to know that he could have job hunted before but couldn't be bothered but now he is. I understand that he has to because they desperately need some money but I now feel a little used especially over the last 18 months when he was seeing her and spending the money I had earned for us on all kinds of things - probably on things for her. He did leave £40 today to pay towards the £300 mobile phone bill he had managed to spend in December.

I still find it very painful when I have to tell people that he is not with me any longer and usually shed a tear. I think not seeing him is helping a bit, but I still find myself thinking of him when in the car and occasionally my mind wonders off.

What else is sad is that his side of the bed has been untouched since he left. The pillows are not touched except for when I change the linen :-(

I still miss him so - am I mad to hope he may come back ?
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