In the beginning

On Monday 6th December my husband of over 28 years declared that he is leaving me for another woman. Apparently I have done nothing wrong and he still loves me but is not 'in love' with me.

His affair started around 18 months ago by 'the other woman' contacting and propositioning him on facebook. Now he is no angel as he should have said no - but why would a woman deliberately set out to break up a marriage that was not in trouble just because hers was on the rocks ? To be fair to my husband he told me after I noted that he seemed to be distant - at least I didn't find out via some other route !

We tried twice to make a go of it but both times she managed to come back into his life again opening up wounds and making him think again of her never really giving us a chance. She claims she is 'thick' but I think she targeted him as she could see what a wonderful man is he and wanted him to replace her broken marriage (by her I hasten to add). I also think she is a manipulating *****.

I still love my husband as he is my soulmate and always has been and also was my best friend. So not only has she stolen my husband, she has stolen my soulmate and my best friend.

This blog will hopefully be therapeutic for me and maybe help others who find themselves in a similar situation xx





Thursday, 17 February 2011

Is he running away from something ?

Its been nice this evening as one of my daughters friends came around so they could study together. We ate together and had a lovely girly chat. I definitely like a busier house than when I am on my own. The cat woke me up again at 6:30am so I am feeling really tired now. Despite planning an early night last night it didn't happen.

I went to visit my mother in law a couple of days ago and she mentioned that someone had 'keyed' his car - possibly the other woman's husband. I thought he was OK with it all - well that is what my husband told me. I've also heard a few people say that her kids are wild and crazy. It didn't sound like that was in a good way.

I'm still struggling to understand why he would leave all he had to a complete change - an absolutely different life in loads of ways. He now has two jobs which will mean he will be working all weekend and most evenings. This means he has had to give up the plan of directing the autumn drama show at the theatre group. He is such a good actor and director, it is a shame.... we origianally met in a local drama group :-( He is leaving everything in his life for this one manipulating woman and her three wayward kids. Why would anyone do that when they had a lot to look forward to in their life which on balance was easy compared to what he is living like now. He says he still loves us all, but my daughters don't want to talk to him or see him. They say it would be awkward now.

It is almost like he is running away from his life that was ............ was it really that bad ? ..........it makes me feel so sad and upset to think that maybe that is why he has gone. What could I have done differently ???

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