In the beginning

On Monday 6th December my husband of over 28 years declared that he is leaving me for another woman. Apparently I have done nothing wrong and he still loves me but is not 'in love' with me.

His affair started around 18 months ago by 'the other woman' contacting and propositioning him on facebook. Now he is no angel as he should have said no - but why would a woman deliberately set out to break up a marriage that was not in trouble just because hers was on the rocks ? To be fair to my husband he told me after I noted that he seemed to be distant - at least I didn't find out via some other route !

We tried twice to make a go of it but both times she managed to come back into his life again opening up wounds and making him think again of her never really giving us a chance. She claims she is 'thick' but I think she targeted him as she could see what a wonderful man is he and wanted him to replace her broken marriage (by her I hasten to add). I also think she is a manipulating *****.

I still love my husband as he is my soulmate and always has been and also was my best friend. So not only has she stolen my husband, she has stolen my soulmate and my best friend.

This blog will hopefully be therapeutic for me and maybe help others who find themselves in a similar situation xx





Saturday, 23 July 2011

Manic week

What a week this has been. I went out to the us on business for a whirlwind three days with the new boss and team I will be working with. I am overwhelmed at the amount of work I have at the moment trying to do two roles until I can hand my old one over. Then I arrived back in the uk at 11:45am to go into meetings until 6pm. We then drove up to nottingham at 10:30pm so we would be there for my daughters graduation on Friday morning. I got to bed at 1am :-( And now I am writing this from the university of Sussex in Brighton because I am here for an ou residential course.

I felt very odd when socialising in the us as everyone was talking about their husbands or wives - I didn't know what to say. Do I say my husband or the man that is my husband but left me for another woman or ?? He isn't an ex as we are still married. Answers on a postcard please! He came to the graduation which I am glad about for my daughter. But the other daughter didn't talk to him at all. It was a lively day but as I sat next to him little things started to irritate me. Like the way he didn't clap properly. These normally wouldnt bothere. What does that mean ?

I am so jet lagged. Driving so much has been quite dangerous as I was dozing at the wheel a couple of times - so scary :-(

Well well see what this week brings. I did have loads of time to think while driving and went through loads of emotions. I had a cry, got cross at him and decided that life is so short and I'm no spring chicken so inmeed to try and do things I want to and enjoy life. Just wish I had someone to enjoy it with.
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