And downward we go again :-(

I've had a flurry of texts for my husband today in response to a fb status I put up regarding the manipulating ***** conducting conversations on fb with mutual friends which just again were very insensitive,

Either my husband is in denial or he has been lying to me.

He told me that she started the affair on fb by coming on to him. If she hadn’t done that would he have gone looking for someone ? I’m assuming not in which case she manipulated it and broke up our marriage. He told me she told him that she had fancied him for years – seems to me like she decided to go for him as her marriage was unhappy – she manipulated it. She knew that we were in a happy marriage – or has he been lying to me and was not happy. If that is the case – why didn’t he talk to me about it so we could have sorted it out. He knows I would have supported him in anything – I loved him that much.

He doesn't want me to talk with her is that because something will come out that he doesn't want me to hear – either lies he has been telling her or things he should have been honest with me about. I would welcome that discussion with her but can’t predict what my reaction might be. She needs to understand what she has done and not keep expecting him to take the blame evenly. If he has been honest with me, yes he has done a bad thing but she has done 100 times worse.

I hate the way he sides with her every time – even against our own daughter – that is despicable. Our daughter is hurting so much and she is so angry with him. He expects her to make the first move. She will not. He has to make the effort and will have to work  hard to get her back on side. At the moment I don’t see him trying – she is always in the wrong in his eyes and HER kids seem to be more important to him now. What kind of a father would do that to his own daughter ?

I have lost all my confidence and have a bad self image and probably will lose my friends as a consequence of that. The stress is coming out – can’t wait to see what my body is going to do next....

I’m now also remembering all kinds of things that should have been signs to me that he was having an affair. I was so blind – I trusted him totally with everything and he betrayed that trust. I will never be able to trust anyone again – thanks for that husband.

I will never ever say a good word about her, I will make it perfectly clear to everyone what she has done – after ruining my life and those of our daughters it is the only thing I have left to me.