In the beginning

On Monday 6th December my husband of over 28 years declared that he is leaving me for another woman. Apparently I have done nothing wrong and he still loves me but is not 'in love' with me.

His affair started around 18 months ago by 'the other woman' contacting and propositioning him on facebook. Now he is no angel as he should have said no - but why would a woman deliberately set out to break up a marriage that was not in trouble just because hers was on the rocks ? To be fair to my husband he told me after I noted that he seemed to be distant - at least I didn't find out via some other route !

We tried twice to make a go of it but both times she managed to come back into his life again opening up wounds and making him think again of her never really giving us a chance. She claims she is 'thick' but I think she targeted him as she could see what a wonderful man is he and wanted him to replace her broken marriage (by her I hasten to add). I also think she is a manipulating *****.

I still love my husband as he is my soulmate and always has been and also was my best friend. So not only has she stolen my husband, she has stolen my soulmate and my best friend.

This blog will hopefully be therapeutic for me and maybe help others who find themselves in a similar situation xx





Sunday, 29 January 2012

The fb status has changed

He finally did it today - changed his fb status to being in a relationship with the manipulating ***** :-( I felt physically sick when I saw it and tears came. As  was at the 12 hour sponsored outh workshop when I saw it I had to retreat to the toilet.

 He came around yesterday to move a credit card in his name with a big balance on it to one at 0% for a while. I am paying hat back as he can't. It became quickly apparent that it couldn't happen as he wouldn't be able to get another card in his current financial position. He told me that he was going to make the relationship change and that she had been very understanding and patient so far. I repeated to him that I hate her and that she was manipulating. He repeated that I hadn't done anything wrong and it was his feelings that had changed ( well of ourselves it would if a desperate manipulating ***** comes onto you and flatters you ). As both the girls were out or the evening I was on my own all night. Plenty of time to think, not great thoughts :-(

 My youngest daughter now has her nice new car and is happy. She has the newest car of all of us now. My eldest daughter finally booked her trip to Thailand and Vietnam for two months leaving in March. This is a wonderful experience for her, but I will worry about her and really really miss her.

Work is still super pressurised and stressful. I know I am being negative all the time both at work and home but can't get back to my positive happy self. I do try but it seems so artificial every time I try.

Anyone have any ideas how I get out of this rut ? Or do I just have to ride it through ?

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