In the beginning

On Monday 6th December my husband of over 28 years declared that he is leaving me for another woman. Apparently I have done nothing wrong and he still loves me but is not 'in love' with me.

His affair started around 18 months ago by 'the other woman' contacting and propositioning him on facebook. Now he is no angel as he should have said no - but why would a woman deliberately set out to break up a marriage that was not in trouble just because hers was on the rocks ? To be fair to my husband he told me after I noted that he seemed to be distant - at least I didn't find out via some other route !

We tried twice to make a go of it but both times she managed to come back into his life again opening up wounds and making him think again of her never really giving us a chance. She claims she is 'thick' but I think she targeted him as she could see what a wonderful man is he and wanted him to replace her broken marriage (by her I hasten to add). I also think she is a manipulating *****.

I still love my husband as he is my soulmate and always has been and also was my best friend. So not only has she stolen my husband, she has stolen my soulmate and my best friend.

This blog will hopefully be therapeutic for me and maybe help others who find themselves in a similar situation xx





Thursday, 5 January 2012

One Year

Today is one year since he left me ;'-(

Have I moved on - not really....

Am I still emotional - yes still quite a a lot...

Can I see a way forward - not really

Any change towards what I think of her - NO she is still a manipulating ***** who stole my husband, lover and best friend - when will karma get her ?

Today to top it all I get a text from him to warn me that there had been a photo posted of him and her at a new years eve party. And my daughter told me that he had told her that he is going to change his fb status relationship - because he promised the manipulating ***** as wants him to. We may not still be together but we are still officially married and I'm not changing that. If he hadn't said anything about the photo I  may never have seen it - but I had to go and look - and what hurt more than anything else were some of the comments. People are still so insensitive. In fact the party host whom I have known for some time 'liked' the photo and made an insensitive comment.  I hate the way that people think I should be OK now because it has been a while. I have really really had to hold myself back from making a comment on the photo. I feel physically sick at the moment.

Other bad news : My daughters car is still not back :-( its been nearly a month

Good news : I actually felt that my old self was coming back at work. Its great to be back with my previous boss and team and I have time to do things properly again :-)
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  1. Me Discovering Me6 January 2012 at 11:53

    Hi, Slava

    Very strange behaviour - why text you to tell you? If he has moved on then why is he worrying about you seeing a photo or is he rubbing your nose in it? I get the feeling not. I wish I could meet him. I would love to know what it going on in his mind.

    Best Wishes
    MDM

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