In the beginning

On Monday 6th December my husband of over 28 years declared that he is leaving me for another woman. Apparently I have done nothing wrong and he still loves me but is not 'in love' with me.

His affair started around 18 months ago by 'the other woman' contacting and propositioning him on facebook. Now he is no angel as he should have said no - but why would a woman deliberately set out to break up a marriage that was not in trouble just because hers was on the rocks ? To be fair to my husband he told me after I noted that he seemed to be distant - at least I didn't find out via some other route !

We tried twice to make a go of it but both times she managed to come back into his life again opening up wounds and making him think again of her never really giving us a chance. She claims she is 'thick' but I think she targeted him as she could see what a wonderful man is he and wanted him to replace her broken marriage (by her I hasten to add). I also think she is a manipulating *****.

I still love my husband as he is my soulmate and always has been and also was my best friend. So not only has she stolen my husband, she has stolen my soulmate and my best friend.

This blog will hopefully be therapeutic for me and maybe help others who find themselves in a similar situation xx





Wednesday, 22 June 2011

Two steps back

I still have this dry skin/rash on my face and neck, my dentist tells me I am grinding or clenching my teeth. I am not a nice person , can't concentrate on anything so not getting my ou done as my mind keeps wandering off. I have no idea what my life is anymore or where it is going. I've started to cry at the drop of a hat again. I just want to curl up in a corner. I keep taking a step forwards and then more shit happens and sends me right back. I hate this much. How can one man affect someone so much. He has mo idea :-(
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  1. Me Discovering Me23 June 2011 at 13:45

    Keep going - it will get better. It will.

    Focus on the good stuff, the good people around you, focus on you. Don't let him do this to you.

    Nothing lasts forever. Things will always change. And we can cope with it. We can. People do it all the time. Things might not be the same ever again but that doesn't mean we won't ever have anything to smile about again. You have a really full life, with your children, your job, your course, your theatre, your friends. Don't let him or more importantly her pull you down. She has no right. Please don't let her. She may have taken him away but for god sake don't let her take you away.

    Thinking of you. Be strong, you can do it.

    MDM xxxx

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  2. Anonymous3 July 2011 at 06:34

    Dear MDM,

    I've been trying to post on your profile with no success for weeks, I just seem to get into a loop. So I thought I would comment on your post to me as that seems to work for me. I read your post for yesterday (2nd July) with great sadness. You and I have been going through this turmoil since January. It hurts when you are so in love with someone. I have been very fortunate to have some wonderful friends who have been there to support me. Do you have anyone to talk with ? I don't know your situation fully - but reading your last post it feels like your husband is really taking the ****. He is really taking advantage of you. Whilst my husband is wrong to have done what he has done, he is still being honerable as best he can (at the moment). But yours is playing with your emotions (and your childrens) to suit him. It sounds to me like he doesn't know what he wants and it almost feels like he is waiting till something else comes along. Its hard and I don't know if I could do it, but looking from the outside in, it seems that he needs time out and maybe he should go and live somewhere else for a while so he can really see what he is missing. That would be a better option than some woman getting her claws into him whilst still with you. One thing I would beg of both of you (and I am sure you are doing this) and that is to make sure that you think of your children at all times and ensure that they are supported through this. I have seen couples only think of their problems, ignoring their kids through it. It has a massive negative impact on them. Thinking of you lots. I am going through numb at the moment and I think am starting to feel a little anger at some things. Not sure where this is going. Take care xx

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