In the beginning

On Monday 6th December my husband of over 28 years declared that he is leaving me for another woman. Apparently I have done nothing wrong and he still loves me but is not 'in love' with me.

His affair started around 18 months ago by 'the other woman' contacting and propositioning him on facebook. Now he is no angel as he should have said no - but why would a woman deliberately set out to break up a marriage that was not in trouble just because hers was on the rocks ? To be fair to my husband he told me after I noted that he seemed to be distant - at least I didn't find out via some other route !

We tried twice to make a go of it but both times she managed to come back into his life again opening up wounds and making him think again of her never really giving us a chance. She claims she is 'thick' but I think she targeted him as she could see what a wonderful man is he and wanted him to replace her broken marriage (by her I hasten to add). I also think she is a manipulating *****.

I still love my husband as he is my soulmate and always has been and also was my best friend. So not only has she stolen my husband, she has stolen my soulmate and my best friend.

This blog will hopefully be therapeutic for me and maybe help others who find themselves in a similar situation xx





Sunday, 5 February 2012

I'm all washed up

Its just gone 4:30am and I can't sleep. All that keeps going through my mind is what a failure I am. Think I need to sort my finances out so I can be sure the girls get anything I leave and not the manipulating ***** and then it's time for me to go. I can't stand this hurt in so many parts of my life anymore. Ive cried so much over the last year and it doesnt stop. I am obviously not wanted , discarded. People are just being nice to me. I never thought I would end up being the victim :-(
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  1. Me Discovering Me8 February 2012 at 02:06

    Hi Slava
    Been thinking about you and now I know why. So worried about you. I wish I knew what to say to help you turn the corner. So I am just going to go through the thoughts in my head. Should I be sympathic or will that make things worse? Do I be cruel to be kind and say snap out of it? You have an awful lot more than probably half the world to feel grateful about? You are letting her win. You are tired, devastated, run down and exhausted that is why things are looking so bad at the moment. There is no other way for them to look and once the negative sets in it is a nasty vicious spiral that will drag you down. Can you try for a couple of weeks to block any negative thoughts (easier said than done, I know only too well). Every time your mind drifts to negative, to him, to her - say no! I'm not listening. Then work on looking after you. Try and get some exercise. Eat properly and regularly, try and sleep better. Avoid tablets but try hot milk, herbal teas. I always put on rain music and always seem to fall asleep before it finishes and it's only set to run for 20 minutes. If you have iPad, iPod etc thre are great apps to download. Will you just try, please. How do you eat and elephant. Bite size chunks. Little steps each day. Keep a diary to show your exercise, eating properly, how many negative thoughts you have blocked.

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  2. Me Discovering Me8 February 2012 at 02:10

    Ran out of space for comments. Hope you are feeling better today. X

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