In the beginning

On Monday 6th December my husband of over 28 years declared that he is leaving me for another woman. Apparently I have done nothing wrong and he still loves me but is not 'in love' with me.

His affair started around 18 months ago by 'the other woman' contacting and propositioning him on facebook. Now he is no angel as he should have said no - but why would a woman deliberately set out to break up a marriage that was not in trouble just because hers was on the rocks ? To be fair to my husband he told me after I noted that he seemed to be distant - at least I didn't find out via some other route !

We tried twice to make a go of it but both times she managed to come back into his life again opening up wounds and making him think again of her never really giving us a chance. She claims she is 'thick' but I think she targeted him as she could see what a wonderful man is he and wanted him to replace her broken marriage (by her I hasten to add). I also think she is a manipulating *****.

I still love my husband as he is my soulmate and always has been and also was my best friend. So not only has she stolen my husband, she has stolen my soulmate and my best friend.

This blog will hopefully be therapeutic for me and maybe help others who find themselves in a similar situation xx





Sunday, 20 November 2011

Its been a while!

Oh my goodness I hadn't realised how long it has been since I wrote anything. So what has happened since I last blogged ?

My birthday came and went. I had some lovely presents from my daughters and friends and from my husband..... The day was quiet but I did go for a massage and for a meal in the evening to which some of my friends came along to. It was a lovely evening :-) I unfortunately had to get up early though to take my daughter to work because her car handbrake had a problem. We called the AA in the next day and they thought it just needed adjusting. However it turned out that all the brakes needed replacing. That made a £662 dent in my credit card. I had to ask my husband to help her sort it out as she needed to go to the garage with it whilst I was in the US. That was a challenge as I had to pay over the phone from the US.

The last week I was in the US travelling on business. Whilst the week was OK it was very tiring with one of the days me getting up at 4am to attend a 5am teleconference and then go into the office at 7am. I didn't get to bed till around 11pm. I found it hard to get out of bed this morning because of the jetlag..... Only four more weeks at work and then I get two weeks off - I can't wait !!!!!!! I really need to start to sort through things and get rid of some stuff. I did do my wardrobe and took over his wardrobe for my summer clothes. To do that I had to clear the rest of his stuff out. I asked him what he wanted me to do with it - he seemed a bit surprised but came and collected the bag as well as his Father Christmas outfit. I shall miss him doing that - I was always so proud of him being Santa.

When on the plane on the way back I watched the film Bridesmaids. The girl in it that was getting married, to me, looked like the manipulating *****. That didn't help me on the journey as my mind started to do the wander again. I felt so sad again.

I went to my street tap class again today and really enjoyed it. Its good to get some exercise while enjoying it :-) I will probably ache tomorrow! And I've signed up for my next OU course which starts in January.

I do still feel very lonely. Even though the girls are here they are often in and out and I'm on my own. I still miss having someone I can talk to about the day and how I'm finding things difficult.

One of the school governors popped around to say hello and see how I was this afternoon - that was nice of him.

And I've started the Christmas present buying. I really didn't know what to buy him - anyhow I have bought some things and can't not give him anything on the day.

I visited my mother in law yesterday and told her I still missed him and would have him back. Anyhow time for bed now - I'll try and not leave it too long till the next post.

1 comment:

  1. Been thinking of you. Sorry I've not left a message. I don't think I do 'winter'. I find it so hard to get up and motivated. The last few weeks or is it months are a blur of just trying to get through work, get sleep and do it all over again. Things had started to seem much better apart from my Love Of My Life and my mom who just don't like each other but have to live together. But as you might expect its all gone down hill again. The booze again. Gets us every time. I just thought I'd check in with you and hope that by concentrating on you will stop the crying. Horrible to hear how you've been thinking. Don't really know what to say. It should have started to ease a bit shouldn't it? There again I spent six years crying over my first love. Men, why do they do this to us. Gonna sign off now and try and get some sleep. Even though I'm not about don't ever think I'm not thinking of you x

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