In the beginning

On Monday 6th December my husband of over 28 years declared that he is leaving me for another woman. Apparently I have done nothing wrong and he still loves me but is not 'in love' with me.

His affair started around 18 months ago by 'the other woman' contacting and propositioning him on facebook. Now he is no angel as he should have said no - but why would a woman deliberately set out to break up a marriage that was not in trouble just because hers was on the rocks ? To be fair to my husband he told me after I noted that he seemed to be distant - at least I didn't find out via some other route !

We tried twice to make a go of it but both times she managed to come back into his life again opening up wounds and making him think again of her never really giving us a chance. She claims she is 'thick' but I think she targeted him as she could see what a wonderful man is he and wanted him to replace her broken marriage (by her I hasten to add). I also think she is a manipulating *****.

I still love my husband as he is my soulmate and always has been and also was my best friend. So not only has she stolen my husband, she has stolen my soulmate and my best friend.

This blog will hopefully be therapeutic for me and maybe help others who find themselves in a similar situation xx





Thursday, 31 July 2014

Marriage

It's been nearly three months since I wrote and I'm am towards the end of a lovely week away with good friends, I'm still a bit in limbo land ......

I have a new set of projects at work which I am sort of enjoying - it's been a long time!

Recently my youngest daughter was quite upset at seeing that her dad had taken the manipulating b****** youngest son to see Eminem at Wembley. These tickets are £80+ a ticket and he gave her £20 for her recent birthday. She said it made her feel like she was now a lower priority. I approached him about this and he had the nerve to get cross !! He said the girls make No effort to keep in touch with him.... I pointed out it was him who left us not the other way around. He tried calling me at work to have a go and then called both the girls one who was on holiday in Croatia.  My youngest told him how it made her feel so they agreed to catch up more often.

So here I am on holiday and I get these texts from the girls asking when I'll be back exactly and then told by my youngest that she needs to talk to me as soon as I get back. After a few texts back and forth I'm getting worried about what.... I suddenly thought - I bet he's getting re married. Anyhow my daughter eventually calls to tell me that he is planning to get engaged at the end of the year and he was not going to mention it to me, which I guess he doesn't have to. However he left it to our daughter to decide whether to tell me or not. I'm so cross - how dare he leave that responsibility with her, what a coward !! She tells me that she and my other daughter don't approve and that it's too early. They support me and won't go to any wedding. I'm so sad and so cross all mixed up together. The only thankful thing is my daughter asked about the name as we have a hyphenated name made up of mine and his . My dad would turn in his grave to have HER take on his name. My ex husband said he will go back to his maiden name. At least he has the decency to do that as he knows how upset that would make me. I knew as soon as I heard her husband had finally agreed to divorce that they would plan to marry soon after. This is completely coming from her - more manipulation - it's all she ever wanted. I hate her so much - I hope karma will come and she will suffer badly one day to make up for her scheming nasty manipualitive being.

My lovely friends took me out for a drink and I got drunk for the first time in ages.

Otherwise not much has happened for me. I am still surviving and ambling along best I can.

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