In the beginning

On Monday 6th December my husband of over 28 years declared that he is leaving me for another woman. Apparently I have done nothing wrong and he still loves me but is not 'in love' with me.

His affair started around 18 months ago by 'the other woman' contacting and propositioning him on facebook. Now he is no angel as he should have said no - but why would a woman deliberately set out to break up a marriage that was not in trouble just because hers was on the rocks ? To be fair to my husband he told me after I noted that he seemed to be distant - at least I didn't find out via some other route !

We tried twice to make a go of it but both times she managed to come back into his life again opening up wounds and making him think again of her never really giving us a chance. She claims she is 'thick' but I think she targeted him as she could see what a wonderful man is he and wanted him to replace her broken marriage (by her I hasten to add). I also think she is a manipulating *****.

I still love my husband as he is my soulmate and always has been and also was my best friend. So not only has she stolen my husband, she has stolen my soulmate and my best friend.

This blog will hopefully be therapeutic for me and maybe help others who find themselves in a similar situation xx





Tuesday, 5 November 2013

Up and down like a yoyo


I finished the show I was working on last week. I had some lovely comments about how I look now. I still get these regularly which really helps my self esteem. I did put on a few pounds after a couple of weeks but still am in target. I now know that I will always have to be careful about what I eat as I don't want to put weight back on. I'm slowly building my wardrobe up again. My taste in clothes has changed quite a bit now probably as I can wear different things.

Work is painful again. I have some good days but more not so good. I'm in discussion with my manager about next steps for me. I have to say this newish manager is very good and is really helping me with my thinking. I feel like I need a change at work.

I had a finance session with an independent consultant and was pleasantly surprised to hear that things are better than I expected with a real opportunity to get rid of my debts including paying my husband off. He also showed me what I can expect for my pension if I retire at 60. Again I was surprised. He said to me I seem to be better off now I am no longer with my husband. So many people have said this to me. I just need to believe that myself.

After a lot of folk telling me to go on online dating I signed up with Match.com. I have been doing it for a week and I am bored already. So many idiots on there who seem to immediately want to talk or meet you. I need to take this slowly by talking to them via email first. I've paid for three months but am convinced I have wasted my money. I'm not enjoying it........and can't believe how shallow the men are.

Its my birthday on Sunday and I'm planning to go to the Harry Potter movie tour with my daughters and their boyfriends possibly followed by a meal. I'm also going out for a meal with friends on the following Wednesday. I invited quite a few folk and didn't expect most of them to come, but so far I have about 15 acceptances ! I am surprised .... hoping it will be a fun evening :-)

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