In the beginning

On Monday 6th December my husband of over 28 years declared that he is leaving me for another woman. Apparently I have done nothing wrong and he still loves me but is not 'in love' with me.

His affair started around 18 months ago by 'the other woman' contacting and propositioning him on facebook. Now he is no angel as he should have said no - but why would a woman deliberately set out to break up a marriage that was not in trouble just because hers was on the rocks ? To be fair to my husband he told me after I noted that he seemed to be distant - at least I didn't find out via some other route !

We tried twice to make a go of it but both times she managed to come back into his life again opening up wounds and making him think again of her never really giving us a chance. She claims she is 'thick' but I think she targeted him as she could see what a wonderful man is he and wanted him to replace her broken marriage (by her I hasten to add). I also think she is a manipulating *****.

I still love my husband as he is my soulmate and always has been and also was my best friend. So not only has she stolen my husband, she has stolen my soulmate and my best friend.

This blog will hopefully be therapeutic for me and maybe help others who find themselves in a similar situation xx





Friday, 17 August 2012

I wondered how long it would take

Well I got the call I was dreading and then the discussion I was expecting. My husband has no money and they are is desperate straights so he wanted to know if I could buy him out of the house. So keeping to his promise that he wouldn't force the sale of the house. Whilst heis being reasonable about the amount he wants I don't have that kind of money to just give him. Anyhow we have agreed to go to the solicitor and see if we can agree some way of doing it hat helps him and gets the house in my name. If that's possible it would give some security to the girls and me. Anyhow he also did say he would want to divorce at some point too. I found that very hard. And then today I am feeling sorry for him that he has no money - why after he has done this to me ? I still don't understand why he left me and now is in this situation. If our marriage had been so bad I could understand but it wasn't. Is the new sex such a draw ? Or does she have something she is holding over him ? I guess I will never find out. How long before he realises its not what he wants. He mentioned that she was worried that she wouldn't be able to pay for a funeral if he died, so he has taken out an insurance to cover that. Why did she even think that? It's very odd. 

 Anyhow before he came around to chat yesterday a fleeting thought went through my mind - what if he wants to come back. I concluded that I didn't know what I would say. Whilst before I would have had him back with open arms I'm not so sure now. I still don't like the situation I am in but I don't know if I would have him back now. Does this mean I have started to move on ?
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  1. Me Discovering Me21 August 2012 at 11:32

    Sorry I have not checked in for ages. It does sound like you are starting to move on. I see what you mean though about feeling sorry for him. I don't mean to be horrible but he is a fool, a real fool. Very worrying about the insurance policy though? It's not exactly something you'd think of is it? However, my 'feeling sorry for him' stops because I can't believe it about the house. So much for keeping promises but it won't be the first promise broken! I hope you get it sorted and secured for you and the girls. Keep going you'll get there. I know he is the love of your life but he is not worthy of you. x

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