So here I am 8 years on since my ex left me for the woman he was having an affair with and who he married a few years ago. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 18 months now and couldn’t be happier 😀 We spend every weekend together and he also comes over on a Wednesday so we can do our radio show together which incidentally we are told works very well with us both as we bounce off each other. We love each other very much and it all just works so well - we haven’t yet found anything that annoys us about each other. I believe we will be together now forever. One day we will move in together but at the moment that is not possible as his work is over 60 miles away - however we are making my house our home. We have since December been sorting my loft out that was a big worry for me. It’s taken since then to get it cleared and sorted. We much have given around 100 bags of things to charity and have taken loads of things to the dump. The next project is to turn one of the bedrooms into a ‘hobby room’ for us.
I saw my ex again at my daughters post grad gratduation and we went to a pub for lunch with my daughter and her fiancé ( ooh yes I forgot to mention my daughter is getting married in 2020 !). As he had been dropped off at the graduation and had no car I drove us all back. It was a bit weird I have to say but we chatted civilly and I had no feelings for him at all. I know he has wanted from day one to stay friends but I couldn’t have anything to do with the woman who broke our family up and still can’t. I am ok talking with him and have always been polite and not made a scene for the sake of my girls. Following that my sister in law invited my boyfriend and me to a games evening at hers which my ex and his wife were also going to. My ex did go but his wife didn’t but it did mean that my ex and my boyfriend met each other for the first time. It was all very pleasant and I felt some relief at that.
We have a wedding coming up later this year where the four of us will be in the same room together. I don’t have a problem with that as my boyfriend will be by my side but I will not have anything to do with my ex’s wife. In eight years I have never seen them together so I guess it’s better done in advance of my daughters wedding next year.
Health wise the muscular problems I have had are almost gone. I think the suggestion it was a virus was probably right. It’s taken around two years to get to this point from the start of the pains. I lose about half a stone in weight doing a four week detox and now my target is to get back to my pre problems fitness by the end of the year and to get my weight down to a comfortable place by my daughters wedding.
In three weeks time we are off for a tour of New Zealand for nearly four weeks. I’m so excited and know it will be amazing.
I always said that when I get to a happy place I would take this blog and turn it into a book. That day I think is fast approaching. I want it to be a book of hope to others who may be going through what I have over the years.
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