In the beginning

On Monday 6th December my husband of over 28 years declared that he is leaving me for another woman. Apparently I have done nothing wrong and he still loves me but is not 'in love' with me.

His affair started around 18 months ago by 'the other woman' contacting and propositioning him on facebook. Now he is no angel as he should have said no - but why would a woman deliberately set out to break up a marriage that was not in trouble just because hers was on the rocks ? To be fair to my husband he told me after I noted that he seemed to be distant - at least I didn't find out via some other route !

We tried twice to make a go of it but both times she managed to come back into his life again opening up wounds and making him think again of her never really giving us a chance. She claims she is 'thick' but I think she targeted him as she could see what a wonderful man is he and wanted him to replace her broken marriage (by her I hasten to add). I also think she is a manipulating *****.

I still love my husband as he is my soulmate and always has been and also was my best friend. So not only has she stolen my husband, she has stolen my soulmate and my best friend.

This blog will hopefully be therapeutic for me and maybe help others who find themselves in a similar situation xx





Sunday, 31 March 2013

Third Easter since he left

In theory I could have the Decree Absolute now (as from Friday) but the finance side of things are still not sorted and the cost of the solicitors is getting higher ! My husband is still being fair having written to his solicitors to tell them he doesn't want any part of my pension. I really could do with this finishing now as it is constantly on my mind :-( I have already paid him a sixth of what he is asking for and he admitted to me yesterday that he hasn't saved any of it.

Recently I have had loads of lovely comments about my weight loss. It does make me feel great and I am determined to meet my target. So far I have lost just over four stone but I've treated myself to a chocolate egg this Easter so probably will put a little on this week. It is actually quite amusing when people don't recognise me - which happened three times last Saturday.

This is the third Easter since my husband left me for the manipulating ***** and I have been pretty much alone this weekend. I find myself very torn as whilst I enjoy being with people I find it easier to just stay in alone. Sad isn't it. I just cant be bothered sometimes to make an effort.

 I managed to finish my very last OU assignment and all being well I will find out around June whether I have my degree and what classification. Its a bit weird not having to study ! But I plan to use the time once I have finished the two shows I am in to do more photography.

I had thought to try and arrange a holiday for me this weekend but I am so indecisive and can't decide what to do. Everything I fancy is so expensive - part of me says so what treat yourself and part of me thinks I can't afford to spend so much on one holiday.

In conversations with others they have asked if I would have my husband back still - and the answer is yes - I still love him and miss him terribly.

I did a bit of DIY this weekend - managed to get the handle back on the door and sand down some furniture the cat has been scratching - I was quite proud of myself :-)

I'm really enjoying my dancing at the moment and walking around my work site every day. I do need more exercise - dancing/walking as I'm not keen on the gym. Something to work on......


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