Well here we are almost at Christmas 2017.
It is now seven years since my ex told me he was leaving and in January it will be seven years since he left. Seven years ago he was moving his things out of the house and meeting with the manipulating ***** and her kids. Despite this I was determined that it wouldn't spoil Christmases for us in future and I've had lovely times with my girls.
This year will be so special as I will be with my boyfriend of five months and things are going so brilliantly with us both. I feel so lucky to have found someone who is so compatible in many many ways :-D
I have now met his mum and two daughters with their partners and it all seemed to go well. I thought they were all lovely and hopefully they thought the same of me.
We do so much together and everything is magical. I now have a purpose in life again......
Since the last post the show I was directing has finished and it got lots of good feedback from the audience, It was a very stressful experience. It has along with other things that have happened sadly made me less likely to do anything else with this group which is a shame as I have been a member for around 17 years. I do miss performing however so may have to find another group to join.
My new man has joined me on my live radio show and that is making it so much fun ! We seem to work well as a double act plus we have been on video via facebook live during the show and that seems to be popular.
The trip with my daughter to Costa Rica was great and we really enjoyed ourselves though I did miss my boyfriend - that must be telling me something mustn't it ? It was so lovely to be with my daughter over those 9 days. I love my girls so very much and any time with them is special for me.
My youngest moved out and is living in her first flat with her boyfriend now. Something they had planned for a while. I'm really pleased for them both but it does make the house feel very empty and lonely for me when I'm alone in the evening. Even though we were passing ships it was nice to know someone else was in the house. My boyfriend lives a 45 min drive away and works the night shift an hour away so I tend to see him at weekends and on Wednesdays for the radio show.
Health wise I saw the Rheumatologist in October and it was good news in that she didn't think I had anything major. Her view was that because I have danced for years my muscles were now compensating for my joints which were less supple due to age. Apparently athletes commonly have such issues, Now whilst I'd like to think I was pretty flexible I dont think I can compare myself to an athlete ! So I dont really buy into this diagnosis. The Osteopath seems to think the pain in my arms is due to an impingement in my shoulders which women often get in later years. A good friend who is a GP but also was a microbiologist has a different theory which seems more likely to me - she suggests that I caught a virus that has affected my muscles and that this time next year I will be fine again. The pain has significantly improved - it is a year now since it started. I still do have stiffness and pain but some days are really good and some not so good - but at least it seems to be improving all the time :-) I keep telling my boyfriend he is good medicine for me ;-p
The last few days I have been feeling very emotional and in tears - I have no idea why as I feel very happy at the moment - perhaps because I am on my own on the run up to Christmas ? Or maybe I am leaving the last chapter behind now and am grieving that in preparation for the new one ?
I always thought I would write this blog until I had found my new happy place - I think I am getting there :-) And maybe when I have a happy ending I'll turn this into a book for all those who find themselves in the same position in their lives......
In the beginning
On Monday 6th December my husband of over 28 years declared that he is leaving me for another woman. Apparently I have done nothing wrong and he still loves me but is not 'in love' with me.
His affair started around 18 months ago by 'the other woman' contacting and propositioning him on facebook. Now he is no angel as he should have said no - but why would a woman deliberately set out to break up a marriage that was not in trouble just because hers was on the rocks ? To be fair to my husband he told me after I noted that he seemed to be distant - at least I didn't find out via some other route !
We tried twice to make a go of it but both times she managed to come back into his life again opening up wounds and making him think again of her never really giving us a chance. She claims she is 'thick' but I think she targeted him as she could see what a wonderful man is he and wanted him to replace her broken marriage (by her I hasten to add). I also think she is a manipulating *****.
I still love my husband as he is my soulmate and always has been and also was my best friend. So not only has she stolen my husband, she has stolen my soulmate and my best friend.
This blog will hopefully be therapeutic for me and maybe help others who find themselves in a similar situation xx
His affair started around 18 months ago by 'the other woman' contacting and propositioning him on facebook. Now he is no angel as he should have said no - but why would a woman deliberately set out to break up a marriage that was not in trouble just because hers was on the rocks ? To be fair to my husband he told me after I noted that he seemed to be distant - at least I didn't find out via some other route !
We tried twice to make a go of it but both times she managed to come back into his life again opening up wounds and making him think again of her never really giving us a chance. She claims she is 'thick' but I think she targeted him as she could see what a wonderful man is he and wanted him to replace her broken marriage (by her I hasten to add). I also think she is a manipulating *****.
I still love my husband as he is my soulmate and always has been and also was my best friend. So not only has she stolen my husband, she has stolen my soulmate and my best friend.
This blog will hopefully be therapeutic for me and maybe help others who find themselves in a similar situation xx