Breaking up is hard to do: September 2012

In the beginning

On Monday 6th December my husband of over 28 years declared that he is leaving me for another woman. Apparently I have done nothing wrong and he still loves me but is not 'in love' with me.

His affair started around 18 months ago by 'the other woman' contacting and propositioning him on facebook. Now he is no angel as he should have said no - but why would a woman deliberately set out to break up a marriage that was not in trouble just because hers was on the rocks ? To be fair to my husband he told me after I noted that he seemed to be distant - at least I didn't find out via some other route !

We tried twice to make a go of it but both times she managed to come back into his life again opening up wounds and making him think again of her never really giving us a chance. She claims she is 'thick' but I think she targeted him as she could see what a wonderful man is he and wanted him to replace her broken marriage (by her I hasten to add). I also think she is a manipulating *****.

I still love my husband as he is my soulmate and always has been and also was my best friend. So not only has she stolen my husband, she has stolen my soulmate and my best friend.

This blog will hopefully be therapeutic for me and maybe help others who find themselves in a similar situation xx

Saturday, 8 September 2012

Not sure

I've been in Ireland for a week now. The tour I did was great as I had company and two kind ladies from Somerset sort of adopted me. I kind of wish now that I had arranged only one day alone in Dublin. I am feeling very lonely and quite scared at times. Pros are I can please myself, cons that I have no one to talk to about anything. The danger is that it leaves me too much time to think about things.

I almost completed reading two books this week - fifty shades of grey - oh my..... how nice it would be to be wanted so much by someone and well..... The second book is called Life Begins at Forty. It's all about a woman whose husband wanted to split up as he was having an affair. There is so much in this book that rings true for me. The only difference being that she only took six months to move on.

I've decided on this holiday that I can't just travel to places on my own. I need some company either during the day or as a companion. Not sure what I am going to do in October when I was planning to go away for a week with my friend. I'll have to do a bit of research and see what I can find.

Saturday, 1 September 2012

Separation

Well we went to the solicitors and they have advised we can move the house into my name via separation agreement. I started crying as soon as we sat down. I guess it's another step to the end of a chapter of my life I didn't want to end :-( anyhow the form has gone to bank to see if they will allow a change in names. We will see..... My husband is so broke that I ended up giving him some money to tide him over for a month.

I was so happy at the beginning of the week to discover I have now lost two stone in weight and some of my clothes are now literally falling off me. The best feeling was when I put a jacket on which was tight before and it fitted lovely.

My youngest daughter has said she is planning to move out into her own place within the next year. I know I need to let her do her own thing but I wish she would leave it a bit longer.

Anyhow I am now on holiday on my own in Ireland. Its exciting but also scary. I'm going to write separate blog for ths called my Irish Adventure - http://myirishadventure2012.blogspot.ie/

I so need this break....... I'm hoping that this may be a start to a new me and a new chapter in my life.